Be the Person You Are Capable of Being
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Loading ...In this article Harrison talks about taking charge and being the person you are capable of being. If you start living the life you want, you will often face external opponents. There will be people who will not like it. However, the largest obstacle you will ever face is yourself. The mistake many of us make is that we do not allow ourselves to be all we can be. Never stand in the way of your own success. Also, never allow others to keep you down. The decision to excel is your own. You can do, be, and have everything you want. Harrison encourages you to do your best to reach your full potential as something much better is awaiting you. Do everything in your power to be the person you are capable of being.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ”Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
-Marianne Williamson
Several years ago, I was writing a newspaper article about a movie critic and political commentator, Michael Medved. Medved was asked why George Bush had lost the election to Bill Clinton. Medved said something along the lines of, ”Months before the election he had some of the highest approval ratings of any American president. In order to understand this, you just need to look at simple psychology. He lost because he wanted to.”
I thought about this statement a lot because it is true in so much of our lives. We decide how far we want to go and then end up sabotaging ourselves at some point along the way. There are numerous reasons we do this, and I would like to review some of those reasons below.
When I was about 15 years old, I was always getting into trouble. One night, I went out with my best friend and took down about 20 street signs around town in the middle of the night. I might have even been drunk. We did this on motorcycles. We were absolutely insane! I did end up returning the street signs to the city a couple of days later when my mom’s boyfriend found them in the garage.
I also want to note that, in this particular period of my life, I had so many friends it was unbelievable. The phone rang constantly. I would get calls in the middle of the night asking me to go somewhere and have fun. I grew up with a lot of wild kids. When I was 25 years old and living in New York City, I turned on the television and saw a kid I knew from my adolescent years on 20/20. He was in prison on a charge that was almost silly. One guy I knew was thrown in juvenile detention for a few months after he stole a meter maid’s cart and led police on a chase.
I moved to Bangkok, Thailand, at the age of 15 after my father was transferred there. I was enrolled in an international school and quickly realized I did not have a lot of soul mates interested in being wild. There was simply no place for that sort of behavior in this new environment. I had fun, but the people weren’t wild like the friends I had back in the United States. A lot of my classmates were from Taiwan and Japan, and they were very serious about school. Some were from places like Nepal, and many were from Israel. The idea of being a social misfit simply did not work there.
For weeks I was very depressed. It was as if I was going through some form of withdrawal. I had no friends interested in being wild and no one at the school liked me for the wild guy I was. I could not even call my friends back home. Instead of continuing to be wild, I had no choice but to fit in with the kids at the international school.
So I started applying myself. I ran for an officer position in the student council and won. I tried out for varsity soccer and made the team. I exercised daily. I started studying a lot. I worked as hard as I could. By the end of the year, I was a straight ”A” student and had the highest grades in my class. I became a completely different person.
When I returned from Bangkok in the summer after my year of school, I announced to my friends back home that I was different now, had much better grades, and so forth. I expected all my friends to be proud of me. Instead, they no longer wanted to socialize with me. They did not want to be friends with someone who took himself so seriously. They were interested in the person I was before. Throughout that summer I was depressed because these people were no longer interested in being my friend.
One morning around 7 a.m., a bunch of former friends showed up at my house in a van. They came in, woke me up, made some jokes, and then left. They seemed very wired, and on the way out one of them punched a hole in the screen door. They did not seem to know what they were doing. I found out later this group of friends spent the summer traveling around in the van doing cocaine, and the van was known as the ”coke van.” I have never done drugs at all and these guys had entered a completely different realm. None of these guys ever did anything with their lives.
Despite feeling isolated, I continued working hard and doing the best I could in school and in life. I ran for student government positions again and won. I continued to improve myself. As I improved, I found myself growing apart from the people around me. This is what happens as you keep improving. People around you are not always comfortable with this, and you outgrow them, or grow in different directions.
I want to make a point I believe is extremely relevant: as you grow, do not look back. Your future will always be better than the past you leave behind. There are people who won’t like it when you grow, but your growth should motivate them to improve as well. You will find some people will grow right along with you, just in different ways.
I once received an email from one of our very talented employees requesting that I not point out something very good that this person did in their job. The person was afraid of looking too talented in others’ eyes. The mistake many of us make is not allowing ourselves to be all we can be.
I want to be clear on something else as well: if you start living the life you want and try to be as successful as you really want to be, you will often face external opponents. However, the largest obstacle you will ever face is yourself. Never stand in the way of your own success. Embrace your capabilities.
In the movie To Die For, Nicole Kidman plays a reporter motivated to have an important career as a television journalist. In this movie, Kidman’s husband tries to prevent her from becoming a well-known and successful reporter. Parents, spouses, peers, and numerous others influence us every single day, and often this influence is an attempt to keep us down.
Never allow others to keep you down. The decision to excell is your own. You can do, be, and have everything you want. Now is the time to take charge of your life and be everything you are capable of being. You are one of the most special people ever. I can assure you that what is waiting for you is much better than never reaching your full potential.
About 10 years ago, I was at a bar in Detroit with my girlfriend. I was about to leave when I passed a table of people with whom I’d been friends before I began working hard and applying myself. I used to think they were the coolest people. While I will not get into specifics, I didn’t want to be associated with those people anymore. None finished college and they did odd jobs like clean boats for a living. Deep down, I knew if I had not moved to Bangkok and taken charge of my abilities, I would probably have had a very similar life.
Take charge and do everything in your power to be the person you are capable of being. You will like where you end up.
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Betty Cochran
There is large number of persons who overestimate or underestimate their capabilities. In either case they end up under-achieving in life. Those who have the gift of honest self-appraisal are able to recognize their true capabilities and use them to the maximum.
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A motivating and inspirational article. People can certainly derive immense benefit from the advice given by the writer citing the events of his own life.
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Harrison believes that the best stories typically revolve around the employee being very motivated to do a good job and continually wanting to improve in his or her employment.
Mr. Barnes, this is an awesome, powerful, much-needed message. In this, you acknowledge having broken the law you now work to uphold. It also opens doors for further reflection. When you returned those signs, did you also repay the damages to minimize your cost to society? I noticed that the motivation to improve, for you, was external: your step-father made you return the signs, you had to change your behavior abroad because of peer pressure and society intolerance. What about internal change: feelings of remorse, realizing the risk to others lives by removing signs and by operating a motorized machine under the influence?
While you are encouraging people, to be all they can be, and you extoll success, you haven’t acknowledged that it’s definition differs from person to person. You are very critical of people who have chosen to live simple lives. Have you considered that if a person chooses to be a boat washer, and every day, they wake up happy, are good to wife and children, are a responsible citizen, and do the best job of washing boats ever, they are a success? I have to take time to appreciate the garbage collectors, the housekeeping services at the hotels, and every person who chooses to do honest work for honest pay. There contribution is often more significant than most, just less glamorous, and only noticed when lacking.
You have frequently repeated that you have never lost a case. Winning doesn’t always mean getting or keeping the most money for your client. It also means upholding the law, making sure that justice was served, and working to minimize everyone’s loss. A truly great lawyer also considers what is in the best interest of the other side.
What I sense is that your true motivators today, just as they were back when you were that wild kid, are the adrenaline rush, and doing something that people don’t think can be done. You like feeling the accomplishment. I just hope you take time for reflection on the big picture of how those wins affect other people’s lives. Just because a door opens doesn’t mean you have to enter. In the best interest of your clients, they also need to be held accountable. If we want a great society, then each of us has a responsibility not only to uphold the law, but to also consider the affect of our actions beyond just ourselves.
Thank you for this inspiring piece.
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