http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/heart-of-darkness-emotion-and-your-career/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 19:57:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/heart-of-darkness-emotion-and-your-career/#comment-15980 L. Thomas Wed, 09 Feb 2011 05:45:12 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=2589#comment-15980 I'm crying, right now...because I can't understand how anyone managed to put this into context. I've struggled with this concept, over and over. Usually the 'professional' self would nullify the 'over-emotional' self; and I would silently struggle with my thoughts about this topic. I'd asked myself questions like, "Did they think I was too feeling...did I send the wrong message...do they think I'm not tough enough?" I met a new professional acquaintance, for which both he and I had an instant professional/emotional connection....and all sorts of conflicting thoughts popped up in my mind. I was just being myself and we happened to hit the same 'mind space and place' at the same time while we were taling. Now I know. We were emotionally and intellectually bonded, during our coversation different topics. We didn't shed any tears - but instead the intensity of our connection and understanding nevertheless, formed a bond. I felt guilty for developing such an immediate bond a professional person of the opposite sex (I'm female and he's a he)- but we were able to talk at a level that was genuine. We have developed a good professional relationship - as he and I have worked on projects together and have been successful because we have an emotional trust that compliments our working relationship. I’m crying, right now…because I can’t understand how anyone managed to put this into context. I’ve struggled with this concept, over and over. Usually the ‘professional’ self would nullify the ‘over-emotional’ self; and I would silently struggle with my thoughts about this topic. I’d asked myself questions like, “Did they think I was too feeling…did I send the wrong message…do they think I’m not tough enough?” I met a new professional acquaintance, for which both he and I had an instant professional/emotional connection….and all sorts of conflicting thoughts popped up in my mind. I was just being myself and we happened to hit the same ‘mind space and place’ at the same time while we were taling. Now I know. We were emotionally and intellectually bonded, during our coversation different topics. We didn’t shed any tears – but instead the intensity of our connection and understanding nevertheless, formed a bond. I felt guilty for developing such an immediate bond a professional person of the opposite sex (I’m female and he’s a he)- but we were able to talk at a level that was genuine. We have developed a good professional relationship – as he and I have worked on projects together and have been successful because we have an emotional trust that compliments our working relationship.

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