Comments on: The Importance of Your Sense of Self http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/ Sun, 12 Feb 2012 19:57:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: How to be self employed http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-66298 How to be self employed Sun, 01 Jan 2012 01:11:26 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-66298 Interesting Post , Many thanks. Staying in The Highlands of Scotland it's great to stumble upon a useful sitelike yours, especially with useful posts like the one above. Many thanks and keep up the great work. Interesting Post , Many thanks. Staying in The Highlands of Scotland it’s great to stumble upon a useful sitelike yours, especially with useful posts like the one above. Many thanks and keep up the great work.

]]> By: Scott Hesse http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-17381 Scott Hesse Fri, 01 Apr 2011 16:40:17 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-17381 Nice article. In the last seven months I have gone through more personal and professional disasters than anyone should have to endure. Two weeks ago I decided to quit feeling sorry for myself, quit whining and be "Scott" again. My attitude immediately changed. I got a good nights sleep for the first time in months. I have landed a good client and I am doing good work again. Self worth makes a huge difference. Nice article. In the last seven months I have gone through more personal and professional disasters than anyone should have to endure. Two weeks ago I decided to quit feeling sorry for myself, quit whining and be “Scott” again. My attitude immediately changed. I got a good nights sleep for the first time in months. I have landed a good client and I am doing good work again. Self worth makes a huge difference.

]]> By: David S http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-17379 David S Fri, 01 Apr 2011 15:55:37 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-17379 This is a very thoughtful and timely piece. Thank you for sharing. This is a very thoughtful and timely piece. Thank you for sharing.

]]> By: Margo Sarvari http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-17376 Margo Sarvari Fri, 01 Apr 2011 15:06:27 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-17376 Dear Mr. Barnes: I have never provided commentary on anything that I have read on the internet; until now, that is. Your written words enveloped much of what is covered in a "psychology, 101" class, yet, the "feeling" that jumps off the platform and into the readers heart (at least <this> reader's heart) is stirring; both in a good way and in a poking way. You could have simply stated: "You are what you think you are." This, however, would have meant nothing. Thanks for helping me to "revisit" where my true sense of self <should> be derived from. Great job! Dear Mr. Barnes: I have never provided commentary on anything that I have read on the internet; until now, that is.
Your written words enveloped much of what is covered in a “psychology, 101″ class, yet, the “feeling” that jumps off the platform and into the readers heart (at least reader’s heart) is stirring; both in a good way and in a poking way.
You could have simply stated: “You are what you think you are.” This, however, would have meant nothing.
Thanks for helping me to “revisit” where my true sense of self be derived from.
Great job! ]]> By: Ayesha http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-12341 Ayesha Thu, 29 Apr 2010 20:30:59 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-12341 You are a great writer, inspirational. Thanks for the affirmations and reminders. You are a great writer, inspirational. Thanks for the affirmations and reminders.

]]> By: Stewart http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-7894 Stewart Sun, 22 Nov 2009 19:45:45 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-7894 This may sound sexist but my intent is to explain my own experiences and the differences between the needs of a yound man versus a young woman in their teens. I too was surrounded by a wide variety of friends in high school ranging from the Ivy League bound to high school drop-outs. My father avoided contact with me and I don't understand why even a couple of decades. I do know that his lack of support or interest in my life caused me to look to my peers for male bonding. More often than not, I found most acceptance in the drop-out street crowd. They provided the male bonding and sense of family that I lacked at home (I didn't have any brothers). I have no doubt that my peer crowd shaped my youthful charatcer and adult perspectives. If only my dad even attempted to be a positive part of my life I am certain that I could have avoided much of my problems in later life. Parental relations are never perfect, but I hope that live in gratitude that you had a degree of paternal support. As a current father, I now know that the greatest joy is to be a supportive parent and watch my children grow. It is an experience that can never be replaced by money, possessions or the phantom prestige should my children enter a "top" school. If your dad is still alive, I hope that your relationship continues to florish. A parent's deepest and most pure joy is to know that they have done well by their children. God Bless Harrison. This may sound sexist but my intent is to explain my own experiences and the differences between the needs of a yound man versus a young woman in their teens. I too was surrounded by a wide variety of friends in high school ranging from the Ivy League bound to high school drop-outs. My father avoided contact with me and I don’t understand why even a couple of decades. I do know that his lack of support or interest in my life caused me to look to my peers for male bonding. More often than not, I found most acceptance in the drop-out street crowd. They provided the male bonding and sense of family that I lacked at home (I didn’t have any brothers). I have no doubt that my peer crowd shaped my youthful charatcer and adult perspectives. If only my dad even attempted to be a positive part of my life I am certain that I could have avoided much of my problems in later life. Parental relations are never perfect, but I hope that live in gratitude that you had a degree of paternal support. As a current father, I now know that the greatest joy is to be a supportive parent and watch my children grow. It is an experience that can never be replaced by money, possessions or the phantom prestige should my children enter a “top” school. If your dad is still alive, I hope that your relationship continues to florish. A parent’s deepest and most pure joy is to know that they have done well by their children.

God Bless Harrison.

]]> By: Hasib Ahmed http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-7887 Hasib Ahmed Sun, 22 Nov 2009 17:17:11 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-7887 Your father is very supportive. To say truly, my parents is not like your father. In my life i saw a very few people have the mentality like your father. Thanks for sharing this. Your father is very supportive. To say truly, my parents is not like your father. In my life i saw a very few people have the mentality like your father. Thanks for sharing this.

]]> By: jimketty http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-7886 jimketty Sun, 22 Nov 2009 17:11:58 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-7886 I had never thought about sense of self that way. The concept became real to me in Mauricio. He moved as someone supremely confident in himself and his abilities, but he was never cocky or superior. Mauricio knew himself and his abilities and that was enough for him. He seemed completely comfortable with his life and surroundings and exhibited a kind of centeredness that I have seldom seen since. I had never thought about sense of self that way. The concept became real to me in Mauricio. He moved as someone supremely confident in himself and his abilities, but he was never cocky or superior. Mauricio knew himself and his abilities and that was enough for him. He seemed completely comfortable with his life and surroundings and exhibited a kind of centeredness that I have seldom seen since.

]]> By: mikemac http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-7885 mikemac Sun, 22 Nov 2009 17:11:36 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-7885 A sense of self does not close a person off to the opinions of others. Suggestions and insights, especially from those who know us well and whom we trust, are valuable for our personal growth. What a sense of self does is steel us against the unnecessary suffering criticism and feedback often cause. While we all thought well of Mauricio, I doubt it would have bothered him the least if one of us had been critical of him. He might have benefited from some instruction offered, but his feelings wouldn't have been hurt. A sense of self does not close a person off to the opinions of others. Suggestions and insights, especially from those who know us well and whom we trust, are valuable for our personal growth. What a sense of self does is steel us against the unnecessary suffering criticism and feedback often cause. While we all thought well of Mauricio, I doubt it would have bothered him the least if one of us had been critical of him. He might have benefited from some instruction offered, but his feelings wouldn’t have been hurt.

]]> By: alex http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/the-importance-of-your-sense-of-self/#comment-7884 alex Sun, 22 Nov 2009 17:11:14 +0000 http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/?p=6731#comment-7884 Many years ago, when I was still in junior high school, my project partner and I decided to be different and submit a self constructed electric bell for our Science project. We were both excited and expected good grades for that assignment. To our disappointment, not only did we nearly flunked it, we were accused of passing off someone else’s project as ours because it looked “too ancient”. Of course it looked old. We made it using some recycled materials found in our backyard! Many years ago, when I was still in junior high school, my project partner and I decided to be different and submit a self constructed electric bell for our Science project. We were both excited and expected good grades for that assignment. To our disappointment, not only did we nearly flunked it, we were accused of passing off someone else’s project as ours because it looked “too ancient”. Of course it looked old. We made it using some recycled materials found in our backyard!

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